The Secret to Doing More of What You Love

And it's simple

Everyone is overwhelmed, and nobody has enough time. At least that’s how it feels. So today, I want to share one simple practice that has helped me prioritize the things (and people) I care about most: automation.

Step One: Clarify What You Want to Prioritize

The first step is to identify what’s getting lost in the shuffle that you want to prioritize and invest in. Consider the following categories:

• Health & Wellness

• Relationships & Community

• Home & Environment

• Career & Finances

• Personal Development & Spirituality

Jot down a few things you’d like to integrate more of into your life. These can be small, like reading before bed or stretching in the morning, or bigger commitments like planning regular gatherings with friends.

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On my list:

• More dinner parties with friends

• More consistent yoga and fitness classes

• Quality one-on-one time with the girls

• Intentional dates with Jordan

Now it’s your turn—what’s on your list?

Step Two: Leverage the Power of Automation

For each item on your list, consider how you can automate or “bake it in” to your schedule so it becomes part of your weekly routine. Here’s how I’ve done it:

• More dinner parties with friends → I’ve blocked out every other Sunday night for casual dinners with friends. We rotate the guest list to stay connected with the people we miss and keep the menu simple like pizza and salad to reduce friction.

• More consistent yoga and fitness classes → Instead of deciding last-minute, I’ve scheduled the same four classes each week on repeat. They’re blocked out on my calendar, ensuring I plan around them rather than trying to squeeze them in. This removes decision fatigue and guarantees consistency.

• Quality time with the girls → Every Wednesday, I pick up Chloe from school, and we take a yoga class together. On Thursday nights, I pick Emilie up from soccer, and we stop for ice cream sundaes on the way home (yes, I eat an icecream sundae every week). These little rituals don’t take much time but feel so special.

• Intentional dates with Jordan → Between work, kids, and running a busy household, it’s easy to put our relationship on the back burner. We recently decided that we’d each plan one date per month and blocked off every other Saturday night just for us.

Step Three: Let Automation Work for You

Once you’ve identified what matters most, use the power of automation—calendars, reminders, recurring reservations, or even a simple standing agreement—to remove decision fatigue and make those priorities effortless. The more you systemize the things that matter, the less stress and planning time you’ll need, freeing you up to enjoy the things (and people) you love most. Here are five simple ways to automate your life:

1. Health & Wellness → Prioritize movement by scheduling exercise as a non-negotiable part of your weekly routine, whether it’s a recurring yoga class or a morning walk.

2. Relationships & Community → Set up standing calls, check-ins, or dinners with family and friends to ensure you’re consistently nurturing important relationships.

3. Home & Environment → Establish simple maintenance routines, like tidying for 10 minutes every evening, so your space stays organized effortlessly.

4. Career & Finances → Automate bill payments, savings, and investments to create financial security without extra stress or decision-making each month.

5. Personal Development & Spirituality → Set aside time for growth by scheduling a recurring slot for reading, journaling, meditation, or a class that fuels your personal development.

What’s one part of your life you can try to simplify and automate? Where are you already automating successfully? Please share in the comments!

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