Reminder: It Only Takes One Decision to Change the Trajectory of Your Life

And my "just-do-one-thing" method for when you're stuck

Like most people, I can fall into seasons of distraction or even paralysis. The world feels noisy. The options feel infinite. And sometimes the clarity I usually have just... disappears.

It’s during these foggy times I remind myself of something I’ve been practicing since I was young: the “just-do-one-thing” method.

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Here’s how it works: When I catch myself spinning—deliberating endlessly, researching one more option, asking too many people for their opinions—I stop. I get quiet. I do my best to listen to whatever intuition I can access. And I make a decision to just do one small thing.

Not the perfect thing. Just one thing.

Because motion creates clarity in a way overthinking never can. Whatever I choose will make me feel different than I feel right now. It will move me forward. I’ll learn something, meet someone, feel inspired to take one more small step.

Just one decision, one forward facing action, can alter every part of your life. Here are a few singular decisions I’ve made that had profound ripple effects:

Community → Applied for an unpaid theater internship → Years of paid theatrical work plus a whole new community of cherished friendships

Contribution → Started picking up neighborhood trash → Met a local security guard whose tires were stolen his first day driving the car he'd saved years to buy → Organized an informal community fundraiser to replace them → Watched neighbors I'd never met show up with cash and kindness

Health → Signed up for a free one-week yoga pass → Started practicing 4x a week → Established a regular workout habit I loved → Now my daughters join me regularly and Chloe plans to become a certified instructor.

Career → Jotted down what I'd learned from organizing homes → Published my first article → Started contributing to major publications → Landed a literary agent → Signed a major book deal → Transformed my career

Each one of these started with nothing more than the tiniest little flicker of curiosity and excitement. For me, that feeling has become a precious breadcrumb that I follow.

At the time, none of these felt like perfect decisions. But each one got me out of overwhelm and into action, and opened a door I didn’t even know existed.

If you’re feeling stuck right now, try this:

Grab a piece of paper. Set a timer for 10 minutes. Answer these questions without editing yourself:

• What do you want to be different one year from now?

• What’s one thing you’d like more of in your life?

• One thing you might regret not doing?

• What are you hungry for or curious about?

• Where do you feel called to contribute, even in the smallest way?

Now look at what you wrote. You probably have several compelling ideas staring back at you.

Don’t overthink it. Pick one.

Then choose one tiny action you can take in the next 48 hours to explore it, experiment with it, or dip a toe in:

• Send one email

• Make one phone call

• Buy one book

• Block one hour on your calendar

• Tell one person what you’re thinking about

• Sign up for one class

• Write one paragraph

That's it. One small step toward whatever's calling you.

You don’t need permission. You don’t need to have everything figured out. You just need to do one thing.

READER PROMPT: I’d love to know - what’s one small decision you’ve made that’s had big positive ripple effects? Drop it in the comments.

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