Thank you! I just read "Don't Believe Everything you Think" which maybe you recommended? But it got me thinking that why I feel overwhelmed all the time has more to do with my thinking I'm overwhelmed than what I actually have to do--even if my to do list is 10,000 things that won't ever go away, it's still my thoughts about it that make it overwhelming.
I put out a puzzle on my dining room table and stop to work on it several times a day. Sitting down for even 10 min forces my brain to stop thinking about its To Do List. If I brew a cup of tea, it feels even more effective, like I'm sitting in the British countryside. Hey, whatever works!
Great post! Transition blocks are lifesavers. The best way to beat the overwhelming feelings is to give my brain time to fully disconnect from a previous task before moving on to a new one.
Yesss! Thank you for sharing! I have recently added better buffer time between meetings and such and it has helped a lot! I add it and travel time in my calendar! I also add decompression and lunchtime looking out into the lake in after my therapy appointments. Love the social needs listing concept too.
I love this idea of prioritizing my time by relationships rather than chasing a list—seems like the secret sauce to feeling like life is full rather than busy!
I use a similar method myself! I also am learning to allow more restorative/quiet/recovery time after bigger social things and also to identify which social things are really for me (this is going to be fun for me!) vs. “I want to go to this bc it feels important to me to go but I know it won’t be that fun for me probably” and pre-calibrate my energy.
Love the structured example of how often you want/need alone time versus with friends and family. As a sociable introvert raised by a mother who is extremely extrovert I have come to realise that I feel real guilt for needing so much alone time to feel grounded and sane - trying to work with accepting that is just who I am, but it is hard!
Thank you! I just read "Don't Believe Everything you Think" which maybe you recommended? But it got me thinking that why I feel overwhelmed all the time has more to do with my thinking I'm overwhelmed than what I actually have to do--even if my to do list is 10,000 things that won't ever go away, it's still my thoughts about it that make it overwhelming.
Absolutely - the book Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman really helped me with this shift as well! xx
Thank you. I will check it out. You have the best recommendations!
I put out a puzzle on my dining room table and stop to work on it several times a day. Sitting down for even 10 min forces my brain to stop thinking about its To Do List. If I brew a cup of tea, it feels even more effective, like I'm sitting in the British countryside. Hey, whatever works!
Brilliant! xx
Thank you! I resonated with this tremendously and plan to put things into action.
Thrilled to hear! xx
Thank you! This is right on target and gives me some ideas to try.
So glad! xx
Great post! Transition blocks are lifesavers. The best way to beat the overwhelming feelings is to give my brain time to fully disconnect from a previous task before moving on to a new one.
Amen! xx
Yesss! Thank you for sharing! I have recently added better buffer time between meetings and such and it has helped a lot! I add it and travel time in my calendar! I also add decompression and lunchtime looking out into the lake in after my therapy appointments. Love the social needs listing concept too.
Love lunchtime looking out into the lake - so lovely! xx
I love this idea of prioritizing my time by relationships rather than chasing a list—seems like the secret sauce to feeling like life is full rather than busy!
Yes, it's really helped me to start from a place of clarity when it comes to my ideal connection cadence. xx
This was sooo helpful!! Definitely gonna use some of these.
Happy to hear! xx
I use a similar method myself! I also am learning to allow more restorative/quiet/recovery time after bigger social things and also to identify which social things are really for me (this is going to be fun for me!) vs. “I want to go to this bc it feels important to me to go but I know it won’t be that fun for me probably” and pre-calibrate my energy.
Love the structured example of how often you want/need alone time versus with friends and family. As a sociable introvert raised by a mother who is extremely extrovert I have come to realise that I feel real guilt for needing so much alone time to feel grounded and sane - trying to work with accepting that is just who I am, but it is hard!